- I need mom to change...
- Mom, I need you...
I need you to change because you sometimes are mean to me,
Just give her a chance. You're doing it perfectly. Look in to her eyes and say it again,
"Mom, sometimes you are mean to me", and look in to her eyes.
Mom, sometimes you're mean...
... and you shouldn't yell at me.
I think you shouldn't be so stressed and tired and angry - sometimes.
Are you feeling where he's coming from?
I mean, just sink into it.
We want our children, we want to know what they're thinking, we want to know what they're thinking,
we want to know what they're feeling...
These worksheets are brilliant.
If you really want to connect with this child that you love so deeply.
And I don't want to experience you and dad fighting and at each other ever again.
So start over. The part about your mom. From the top.
I'm mad about dad because he yells at me and sometimes calls and says "shut up" and tells me this promise,
and I need you to change because you sometimes yell at me and you're mean to me.
Now this is how you know your child or that family member or friend really close up.
I yell and scream?
I yell and scream at you - is it true?
And do you yell and scream at him sometimes?
Okay, so you know you do, you know she does,
and you still take it on, because that's just the beginning.
You know on television shows when you admit everything - well, then what do you do?
You know, that's like releasing a whole, huge thing,
but because you're still believing your thoughts it rebuilds again,
so here's how. That's what they haven't shown us - how. What do you do next?
Okay, so "I scream and yell at you".
I scream and yell at you - is it true?
Are you sure?
What does it feel like when you believe the thought -
"What does it feel like when I yell and scream at you?" Because you've owned it.
What does it feel like when I yell and scream at you?
I feel scared, like I wanna run away and never come back.
Ask if there's anything else. Are you taking this in?
This guy will give you everything.
He is your dearest heart.
And it says so much of you that he can say all these things.
So ask him if there's anything else, when you believe that thought?
Is there anything else you're feeling? In other words, you just kind of... I mean, he's so, he's so generous.
And if there's something else. Maybe there is, maybe there isn't.
Is there anything else?
Yes. I feel angry and like I wanna fight back.