The Work and Self-Judgments: Who is the “Myself”
July 10–August 14, 2012
Participant: What if I know it's all about me? Can't I just skip judging my neighbor and work directly on myself?Do you struggle with self-judgments, such as “I'm not good enough,” There's something wrong with me,” or “I’m a failure”? And have you tried to fix, change or modify your actions, your way of relating, your thoughts and your feelings---to end the self-judgments and the pain?
Most of us have invested years or decades in this approach—a life of waiting. ‘If only I was different—then I would feel better. Then I would treat others differently. Then I would be more creative. Then I would achieve my goals. Then I would be loving and kind.”
But what if we had a way to investigate the self-judging thought so completely, that it was impossible to believe it? Consider an analogy: What if you believed in Santa Claus so completely and so fervently, that you lived you life around the meaning of Santa Claus; almost as if you were held hostage by the belief. Then one day, you had the guts to check it out for yourself and you discovered….No Santa Claus! It was a story all along!!! Now, you cannot believe the story of Santa Claus. Feel the freedom in that. No waiting! No behavior modification! No fear of disappointment! You don't even have to get rid of the story. It might appear again, but there is no struggle, no engagement with it at all. Just peace, and a little laughter!
That's the opportunity of learning how to question self-judgments. We identify every facet or strand of the belief and hold it up against the truth. Once we see clearly that one strand is not true, we check for any feeling residue that seems to give it density or weight—then we question any such feeling. We repeatedly take our place as the witnessing, questioning, knowing element. We take each strand of belief as they arise, one by one; we lay them all out as separate pieces of supposed proof, and realize there is in reality no “glue” holding them together. There is no “me” or “myself” to whom the strands refer. There is no “me” with a problem, a defect, a shortcoming or a failing. I just believed it all this time!
Realization is the end of struggling with self-judgments. It’s the beginning of facing challenges that continue to arise, but facing them with energy, courage, creativity, love and light-heartedness.
With The Work, we have a brilliant, step-by-step process to unravel the strands of belief, and see the Truth.
Do you really want to know the truth?
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.
—Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love
Class 1: Find the Identity
Class 2: Find the Actor
Class 3: Find the Sting
Class 4: Whose Judgment is It, Anyway?
Class 5: Extracting the Juice
Class 6: Ultimate Freedom with any Self-judgment
For those unable to attend, class can be taken in private sessions (6) for $700. Private sessions do not count for ITW credit.
About the Presenter
“This teleclass should be made obligatory in the certification program. Entire class was so gentle yet powerfully effective. Clear and concrete exercises.”
“I’ve found a revived interest in The Work because of giving myself permission to work my self-judgments. I can't even call them “my” self-judgments anymore. Working this process with my former self-judgment (“I'm unlovable”) has astonishingly changed the tune of a 40-year relationship from pain and rejection to love and support. I am so on her side now—all that I wanted from her I am now in joy to give.”
“I've been sitting in the thought of "my self" on and off for the past day.....this has been in conjunction with the homework assignment of defining what I believe to be "myself"—I'm finding "my self" is really just a thought and image I have of who I think I am and who and what I think I should be. They're all thought's—and at the same time those pictures don't align with what I see reflected to me in a mirror—my "inner" and "outer" are two different pictures/images. This has been fascinating and I'm going to continue to stay with this exploration.”
“I enjoyed taking Elizabeth's class and felt in good hands as we practiced the Work in depth. In particular, exploring this 'me', and the proofs of a 'me', were a powerful level of investigation as well as fun. Taking an issue back until it relates to a person, was an important find for me. I hope to take the class again.”
Cancellation Policy for This EventFull refund 5 days prior to Class 1—with written request; a $50 processing fee will be deducted. No refunds if cancelled less than 5 days prior to Class 1.
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Dates: July 10, 17, 24, 31, and
11 a.m.–12:30 p.m. PT
7 p.m. GMT
8 p.m. Europe
11 a.m. West Coast USA
2 p.m. East Coast USA
90 minutes duration
Free Skype from anywhere in the world, or use land line.
(You will need to purchase a very low-cost subscription to call in using Skype; how-to is provided upon registration.)
This event counts as 10 hours of credit for Candidates in the BKI Facilitator Certification Program. Participants must attend the entire event in order to receive credit.
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